Heat oil, add 1tsp cumin, bay leaf, cinnamon stick, black pepper, cloves, star anise, dried mace
Add chopped chillies (3), chopped garlic (3 cloves), ginger paste (1/2 tsp)
Add 1 small chopped onion, salt, saute until golden
Add 1/4 tsp turmeric, 1/2 tsp red chilli pd, 1/4tsp garam masala, 2 tbsp coriander pd
Add 2 tomato pureed, saute until oil separates
Add 2 medium potatoes peeled and chopped, 5 min
Add whole cauliflower, separated into medium sized florets
Mix well, add water, chopped fresh coriander, few drops of lime juice, bring to boil
Cook on low flame until potatoes are cooked [or pressure cook].
Should be enough for 10 servings :D
Her possessions are here, but her essence is gone: everything has ceased.
- Li Qingzhao
The internets and the search engines have failed me. Can somebody remember who is the male model playing Shibani's LI in the 90's song "Ho Gayi Hai Mohabbat"? You know this one?
The one message that I heard again and again at Grace Hopper
was: Get a PHD, if only for the instant credibility it gives you. I thought this was good advice. Most people I work with have PHDs and I admit to subconsciously treating like they know what they're talking about [until they prove otherwise but that's rare - not because they have a PHD per se - but perhaps because they wouldn't have been hired if they weren't smart]. On the other hand the MS (and BS) folks need to earn their credibility. And what about the numerous times I've felt so small, not knowing what to talk about an obscure topic?
But after I came back, I got thinking. Do we ever feel comfortable with our achievements? Or do we ever stop looking up, at one level higher, to compare, to downplay oneself? Like a co-worker (with a PHD) told me once - "I applied to universities and was rejected everywhere, I had to join the industry". And what about those that do get into academia? Do they go - "I got into Tufts all right but wish I was smart enough to have MIT or Berkeley after me, like that other guy I know"? And does the MIT prof think - "I showed such promise in school - and I'm still stuck here doing mediocre research. I thought I was a genius but would I ever get a Turing ..."?
But the biggest take away for me from GHC was: it's OK to feel small sometimes. OK to have the butterflies when you start something new. And hearing women who've been in this field for as long as they've been say this was huge! I mean, one thing about this industry is that it's hard to find many people (forget just women) who've been here long enough to have a "career" and be a role model young women could aspire to. To see these 40+ aged women CTOs and VPs sharing their journeys, the paths they took, the hurdles they faced was truly inspirational.
If, after reading my previous post
you thought sexism in the industry was limited to the American scene (because after all we are a minority here), read this guy's funny take on females in the Indian IT industry, where there is equality at least in numbers:An Open Letter From a Male Project Manager to Women In IT
It's weird that he reiterates lot of rants I've heard from friends before - meaning that women know what is going on - and yet they do nothing about it! Like this gem --".. you are probably married and have kids and cannot make 1-month trips abroad or stay back in office till 1 am in the night, and therefore even if you are perfectly capable of being smart and productive in the 8 hours you work in a day, I don’t need to promote you. I thank you for letting me encourage a culture of “Work more, not work smart”. It’s simpler you know. Promote anybody who sends me emails at 1 am in the night."
LOL!! Or this one --".. Your chances of becoming a project leader entirely hinge on how the men in your group will receive your promotion. If there are male peers in your group, you stand no chance, unless there are an equal number of opportunities. Promoting a girl when an (albeit less qualified) male peer is available could cause the guy to threaten to resign and therefore why risk that, eh? .. I thank you for letting me consider your promotion only when the men in your group are substantially younger to you.
So much for cramming the computer science and IT sections of engineering colleges with women :P
Review of "Unlocking the Clubhouse"
To paraphrase the reviewer, I've been surprised that men in computer science are not aware that their women counterparts have a completely different experience from them. Like a guy at the office said - "why do you have women-only lunches and meetings? are we, the men, such a threat to dialog among women?" :) To answer him and the other equally curious men - No, you are not a threat. But it is also true that women are a minority in this area. More importantly, it has been proven that they have different expectations/concerns/issues on the job. These gatherings serve as an outlet to validate their experience and find peace with the "different-ness".
The book Unlocking the Clubhouse
documents studies by two researchers at CMU, who set about explaining the "leaky pipeline" as it called - the phenomenon of women slowly opting out of computer science at various stages. Being a person who has considered this option a lot, more so recently, this was a topic close to my heart. I'm yet to read the book. But reading the excerpts on Amazon and then attending the Authors' talk has piqued my curiosity. If you're curious too and are not considering reading the book, I would suggest you read the above review. I leave you with this interview from the book --Donna, a junior at Carnegie Mellon, describes questioning whether she belongs in computer science: "In my free time I prefer to read a good fiction book or learn how to do photography or something different, whereas that's their hobby, it's their work, it's their one goal. I'm just not like that at all; I don't dream in code like they do."
Now, the really important question that has been bothering me is - History shows that the really successful people in computer science are the ones who fit the above profile. Perhaps, it is an important trait to be obsessed about computer science to make a mark here? Perhaps, the feeling that I don't belong is an indicator that I will never be able to compete with those who do? If I don't dream in code, should I just resign myself to being good, but never the best? Or just move on and find something that makes me feel less mediocre?
I found this in my mailbox today while searching for something else. I remember reading it in my early twenties and identifying with most of it. But today, all I could think was "yikes, what angst!". Perhaps it's not such a bad thing to be bidding goodbye to your twenties after all ... :D
They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.
Your opinions(and maybe even your prejudices ) have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have
certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or you love a person but she/he loves someone else and your heart is broken. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person.
One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap.
Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.
Now, there is no more the desperate need to "figure" anything out .. As Somerset Maugham would have said, the pattern in the carpet has been found!
Cooked some variation of vegetable pulav/biryani - totally random with no set recipe in mind. Turned out absolutely delicious! Writing the recipe down because recalling culinary experiments by memory has not served well in the past :)
0. Cook 1 cup rice using absorption method.
1. Peel 1 potato, dice into small cubes, sprinkle little salt, microwave for 3mins.
2. Add cleaned cauliflower florets, some chopped carrots, frozen peas to container with potato. Microwave for 3 more mins.
3. Heat 2tbsp oil on medium heat, add 10-12 cloves, 10-12 pepper corns, 3-4 cardamom, 1-2 bay leaves, 1-2 cinnamon sticks, 1-2tsp Cumin seeds. Saute for a min or two. [This is the time to turn the vent on :D]
4. Add 3 chopped green chillies, 5-6 chopped garlic, 1tsp garlic paste. Saute for a min.
5. Add a quarter of a big onion, cut into thin strips. Saute till translucent.
6. Add .5tsp turmeric pd, 1tsp chilli pd, 2-3 heaped tsp coriander pd. Saute for a min.
7. Add the semi-cooked vegetables, stir well. Add 1 tomato finely chopped. Stir. Add some salt, lower heat, close lid, let it cook for 2 mins.
8. Mix in the rice well. Check salt. Sprinkle fresh chopped coriander. Turn off heat. Done :)